Everyone has a story. It’s time to write yours. You have been carrying a lot for a long time. If you’re thinking of hiring a ghostwriter, this guide will provide you with resources and ideas for getting started, and finishing your rough draft.
Maybe it is the story of a business you built from nothing, and all the life that happened while you were building it. Perhaps it is the story of a passion that turned into a career, or a career that taught you everything about who you are. Or maybe the hardest moments of your life and the proudest moments of your work are so tangled together you could not separate them if you tried.
| Key Takeaways
• Your memoir is not just a business book. It is the story of a life that built something, and the lessons that ran in both directions. Getting clear on that distinction before we start changes everything. • The raw material is already there. The stories you tell at dinner, the pivotal moments you return to, the decisions that still keep you up at night — those are your chapters. • A memoir ghostwriter is a listener first. The more openly you can share before we begin, the more authentically your book will sound like you. |
That is exactly the kind of book worth writing. I call it a business memoir; it’s the story of your life, personally and professionally. It is not a business book with anecdotes added. It is the full picture: the failures that shaped your decisions, the people who changed your direction, the values you discovered by testing them under pressure.
Here’s the thing: I cannot write that book from a resume or a list of accomplishments. I need your stories. The more prepared you are to share them before we begin, the better your memoir will be.
This guide walks you through exactly what to prepare before hiring a ghostwriter for your memoir, so the book you hand to your readers, your family, and your team tells the whole truth about the life you have lived and the work you have done.
Know What Your Memoir Is Really About
WHY are you writing a book? That’s what the book is really about.
WHO is the book written for? We keep them in mind as we write.
A memoir is not a chronological record of everything that happened. It is a shaped story with a perspective. There’s a reason you’re writing and a reader you have in mind.
What’s the through-line for business and life experiences? For some people, that thread is resilience. They built their business through circumstances that should have stopped them, and the personal and professional story of that survival is inseparable. For others, the thread is values. The way they were raised, or a moment that cracked them open, became the foundation of how they lead.
Think about which of these feels closest to your story:
- A life that prepared you for the work you were meant to do
- A business that taught you who you are as a person
- A passion you pursued against the odds that became your livelihood
- A series of failures, in life and work, that eventually pointed somewhere worth going
- A legacy you are building for the people who come after you
You do not need a finished answer before we talk. Naming the direction is enough. I will help you find the thread as we go.
Name the Reader You Are Writing For
When I started business networking in 2010, I attended a meeting where the skincare representative said her ideal client was “anyone with skin.” Even then, when I was fresh out of corporate America with little networking experience, I knew this wasn’t a good answer to the question. It’s the same when I ask who the ideal reader of your book is; I can say with certainty that it is not everyone.
The most powerful memoir has a reader in mind. Not a demographic, a person. Someone who is at an earlier stage of the journey you have already made. Someone who needs to know that what you built was possible, or that what they are going through right now has a way through.
That reader might be a younger entrepreneur who reminds you of yourself twenty years ago. It might be someone facing a health crisis while trying to hold their business together. It might be the next generation of leaders in your field who never got to ask you these questions in person.
When you can name that person, I can write to them. And writing to a specific person is always better than writing to everyone.
Ghostwriting Client Story
A prospective client came to me and said they wanted to write a story because her mother told her it needed to be written. While I will never mess with a message from someone so important in your life, as your ghostwriter, I will push you to think more about why and for whom you are telling your story. I asked my prospect questions like:
- Why did your mother think your life story was compelling enough to write a book about it?
- Who is the ideal reader for your book?
- Why are you writing a book?
She proceeded to tell me about a series of terrible events that happened to her when she was young. Each one could have literally killed her, but instead, she healed, learned, found a mentor, and became a stronger woman in life and business. She wants her message of resilience and success to be a light for young women who think there is no hope and no way out of their current situations.
That’s the book we’re writing.
Gather the Stories That Keep Coming Back to You
Memoir preparation isn’t simply pulling presentations and articles together into a book. It’s more personal and tells not only your professional story, but what you’ve learned in business that translates to your life, and vice versa.
Brain dump the stories you have told more than once.
These are the stories you tell at dinner parties and conferences, and in quiet conversations with people who ask how you got here. They land well because you have learned what matters in them.
- What are the decisions that sent your life or business in a different direction than what you had planned or envisioned?
- Who are the people who mentored or influenced you?
- What are your failures, and what were the lessons learned?
- What are moments of clarity?
Start a list of answering these questions. You do not need to write any of this out in polished prose. A voice memo in your car, a bullet list of names and years, a folder of old photos or journal entries, all of it is useful. My job is to find the shape of the story. Your job is to give me the starting point for conversations that will eventually become your rough draft.
Decide What You Are Willing to Share
This is the conversation most ghostwriters do not have with you early enough, and it matters enormously for a memoir.
A memoir that tells only the good parts is a marketing brochure. The books that stay with readers, that get passed from person to person and referenced years later, are the ones that include the hard parts. The decisions you are not proud of. The years you lost. The relationships that did not survive what you were building.
You do not have to share everything. You are allowed to protect people, keep certain stories private, and decide what belongs in the book and what does not. That is your right as the author.
The question is then: how honest are you willing to be?
I will never push you to include something that does not feel right. After all, this is your story and your name on the cover. What I will do is help you find the version of each hard story that serves the reader without requiring you to sacrifice more than you want to give.
Think about this before we start:
- Are there people in your story who need to be protected?
- Are there chapters of your life you have never spoken about publicly that might be exactly what a reader needs to hear?
- Are there business decisions or personal choices you are ready to be honest about for the first time?
Give yourself grace here. This process takes time. The book you write at the end will likely go further than you expect to go right now, and that is how it should be.
Be Realistic About Your Schedule
Our interview sessions will not feel like a debrief. They will feel more like the kind of conversation you have when someone finally asks the right question. You will say things you have not said out loud before. You will remember details you forgot you remembered. Give yourself space for that.
Our weekly or biweekly sessions will be 60-90 minutes. We will have a set of questions to answer in each session to keep us focused. Ideally, each session is a chapter of the book.
Most memoir projects take six to twelve months from our first conversation to a finished draft. That range depends on the scope of the story, your availability, and how much existing writing we plan to use for the book.
Know Your Budget Before We Talk
Memoir ghostwriting is an investment, and the range is wide. Ask questions before hiring a ghostwriter. In my initial consultations, I am asking questions and listening to understand if we can work together. We need to be a good fit, and the project has to be a subject about which I am willing to ghostwrite, so we take that 30-minute call to get to know each other.
What you are paying for is not just the writing. It is the listening. The hours of interviews, the careful shaping of a life story into something a reader can follow, and the skill of making it sound exactly like you while making it better than anything you would have written yourself.
I am transparent about costs, and we will find a plan that fits where you are right now. Knowing your general budget range before our consultation helps us both have an honest conversation from the start.
My pricing starts at $8,000 for new ghostwriting projects; this gets you to rough draft and then I refer you to my collaborator for final edit, formatting, and publishing.
Ghostwriting or Book Coaching: Which Is Right for Your Memoir?
Some people want to write their own memoir and need a guide. Others want it written for them. Both are valid, and both get you to a finished book.
Ghostwriting means I do the writing. You show up for interviews, share your stories, review chapters, and give feedback. I handle the structure, the narrative arc, the voice, and the prose. When the manuscript is done, it is yours completely.
Book coaching means you write the memoir yourself, with my support. I help you clarify the story, build an outline, stay on schedule, and work through the challenges that come up when you are writing about real people and real events. You do the writing. I keep the project from stalling.
The question is then: do you want to author the words yourself, or do you want to hand the writing to someone who can hold the full story and shape it for you?
Writing your own memoir is deeply personal and takes real time. Handing your life story to a ghostwriter requires a level of trust and openness that not everyone is ready for immediately. We will figure out which path fits during our consultation.
You can read more about book coaching services and book ghostwriting services to compare them before we talk.
Ready to Write Your Story?
The people who read your memoir will not just learn what you built. They will understand why you built it, what it cost you, and what it gave back. That is the book worth writing.
You have been carrying these stories for years. The preparation you do before we start, knowing your through line, naming your reader, gathering your memories, and deciding how honest you are ready to be, is not extra work. It is what makes the difference between a memoir that sits on a shelf and one that gets passed around.
After all, you are not writing this book because it was easy. You are writing it because it is true, and because someone out there needs to read it.
Ready to write your story? Let’s chat about where you are in the process, and whether memoir ghostwriting or book coaching is the right fit for you.
Frequently Asked Questions about Hiring a Ghostwriter
What makes a business memoir different from a traditional business book?
A business book is typically built around a framework, a method, or a set of strategies. A memoir is built around a life. Your business memoir includes the personal story that runs alongside everything you built professionally, the relationships, the setbacks, the turning points, and the values that drove your decisions. It is the full picture, not just the lessons in a listicle.
Do I need to have everything figured out before hiring a ghostwriter for my memoir?
No. Most clients come to me with a general sense of what they want to write about and no clear structure. Part of my job is helping you find the shape of your story. What helps most before our first conversation is a sense of who you are writing for and a few of the core stories you know belong in the book.
What if parts of my story involve other people who are still in my life?
This comes up in every memoir project. We will talk through how to handle real people, real events, and real relationships with care. You can protect people without losing the truth of the story. Anonymizing details, adjusting timelines, and focusing on your own experience rather than judging others are all tools we use. The goal is honesty, not exposure.
How long does it take to ghostwrite a memoir?
Most memoir projects take six to twelve months from our first interview to a finished draft. The range depends on the scope of the story, your availability for interviews and reviews, and how much existing writing we are starting with. Memoir tends to take longer than a straight business book because the conversations go deeper and the material is more personal.
Can I write my memoir myself with support instead of having it ghostwritten?
Yes. Book coaching is exactly that option. You write the memoir with my guidance, accountability, and feedback throughout the process. Many people want to author the words themselves, especially for a memoir, because the act of writing it is part of working through the story, and if that is the case, a book coach is right for you. We will figure out which approach makes sense during our consultation.